The most challenging issues faced by divorcing parents in Minnesota are those related to the children. While the end of a marriage is a tough event to go through, it can be an even more challenging time for the children involved. Therefore, it is important to take the time to consider the needs and best interests of the children when developing a child custody arrangement.
Much like each family is very diverse, the way a family goes through the divorce process is very diverse. Thus, in cases where divorcing parents are able to set aside his or her differences and work together to meet the needs of the children, it is most ideal to develop a co-parenting relationship. While this relationship relies on open communication and collaboration, it is an effective way to meet the parenting time needs of both parents.
In order for co-parenting to be successful, however, parents need to take certain steps or measure. For example, in the beginning, it is imperative to have empathy and view the situation from the perspective of the children. While it can be difficult to have compassion for a former spouse, this can help build a stronger co-parenting relationship. Next, it is important to also set up clear boundaries with this co-parenting relationship and maintain this structure. This can make it clear for the children what their life is transitioning to.
Although it is difficult to accept that divorce occurred and a custody agreement is now in place, it is paramount that parents accept the reality that he or she is living. This will make it easier for everyone involved, allowing him or her to navigate any future issues that might occur with flexibility. Lastly, it is important that parents maintain their values and integrity. Although life has changed, this does not mean a parent cannot stick to his or her values an way of life.
Navigating the divorce process can be challenging; however, when children are involved, several other decision must be made. If you are dealing with custody issues or any other family law dispute, it is important to understand the matter, your rights and what options you have to reach a resolution.
Source: Goodtherapy.org, "5 Co-Parenting Tips for Newly Divorced Parents," Andra Brosh, PhD, April 21, 2016