When anyone marries, the intent is for the relationship to last forever. Unfortunately, many holy unions do not remain intact.
Divorcing is an unsavory proposition, yet unhappily staying together is not an option. Both parties want the split to happen as fast as possible so they can move on with their lives. Thankfully, the right approach launches divorce proceedings into high gear.
Talking with your soon-to-be-ex is likely a struggle. That said, it behooves both of you to share important information. That way, there are no surprises that could turn into roadblocks on your path to going separate ways. Vital matters, such as child custody and asset ownership, beg for discussion. Review them sooner rather than later.
Rather than heading to divorce court, plan on ending your union through mediation. This option is speedier than airing grievances before a judge and awaiting a verdict. Allow a neutral, third party to assist with negotiations. In the interest of fairness, each of you should have an attorney during these proceedings.
Agreements are only official once they get written down, signed and dated. Have a lawyer draw up a contract the moment you agree to anything. Putting the terms of your settlement onto paper reduces the risk of misunderstanding. Resolving questions is a simple matter of referring to the record. The alternative is that differing perspectives turn into long, drawn-out points of contention.
Getting through divorce is like ripping off a Band-Aid. The quicker it happens, the less painful it will be. Staying open-minded and agreeable makes the process go quicker and reduces extra conflict.